Sometimes things happen in our lives that are unexpected and catch us by surprise. Things we never dreamed in our wildest imaginations come and try to tear us down. We can choose how to react to those unwelcome events. It could be easy to fall into a lump of self pity, but there is another way.
We may be caught by surprise, but God isn’t.
He has promised to be with us no matter what happens. He doesn’t always remove the hard thing, but He gives strength to move forward. Our lives may take a completely different turn than we expected. Dreams that once seemed real may turn topsy-turvy, but with God’s help we can hold our heads up high and push through.
Often when a life altering event happens, we go through stages that may seem like an emotional roller coaster. We need time to grieve and lament, which is not the same thing as self pity. There are legitimate reasons for our grief. Fear is another reaction we may experience. The future we imagined is now unknown. We wonder what else might happen.
Once we experience the initial hurt, grief and fear, anger often shows up. Maybe someone has wronged you, which is hard enough, but the repercussions ripple on down to your children. Consequently their lives that were going along smoothly have abruptly changed and they are struggling with the same emotions as you.
WE TRY TO FIX IT OURSELVES
As all these events are happening we often try to fix it ourselves. We forget the One who loves us, who wants us to bring all our burdens as offerings to Him. Yes, we will still feel the range of emotions, but when we give them to God, He offers peace in return.
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. (Matthew 11:28-29)
The Lord gives strength to his people; the Lord blesses his people with peace. (Psalm 29:11)
With the peace, strength and wisdom that comes from God, we no longer feel so lost and alone. We then see from a new perspective and are able to come up with a workable plan. He also uses other people to help in ways we did not expect. As the body of Christ we empathize with each other whether weeping or rejoicing. We “bear one another’s burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.” (Gal. 6:2)
When we give our burdens to God, He doesn’t necessarily change our circumstances, but we are often given new direction.It may not be the path that some would have us take, but that does not matter. What matters is that we follow where Christ leads. He will help us know how to follow the path that is unique for us.
*Here is the whole poem in case the photo is hard to read.
Leaving green meadow behind
carefully moving her feet
unused to the dirt and twigs
Eyes full of tears, on she goes
White lace dress tattered and torn
Why did no one understand?
Unsure of where she will end
but scrambling to get away
Faster now, more confident
Knowing now what she must do
Caring not what others think
She follows her own new path